Hello! This week I'm talking about self-esteem, confidence, mojo, whatever you want to label it. And how coercive, manipulative, and abusive programming erodes self-esteem and creates a mindset where we feel caged in and stuck. It stops us from being our best selves and honoring the voice that was once there and told us we CAN do things, we ARE capable, and fuels us with HOPE.
So can we break through that caged mindset? If so, HOW?
One consistent pattern I've seen with myself and fellow survivors of emotional, financial, and mentally abusive situations is when you finally get out of one of these relationships, you first think, "I'm FREE!!!!"
But you soon realize you're NOT TRULY FREE because even if you no longer have contact with the abuser, your experience built a cage in your mind through ongoing emotional, mental, manipulation, and coercive control.
In this episode, I discuss an interview by Ed Mylett that lit a fire within me and helped me see this pattern and A WAY OUT that can help many of us regain confidence, and self-esteem, to gain a sense of self-efficacy.
It's not a quick fix, and it's all about incremental change. Those 1% tweaks in our behavior trigger shifts in how we frame our lives. They're catalysts for more profound change, allowing us to create a new story and identity, breaking through the well-worn programming we may not even be aware of.
I'm speaking from the heart here, addressing many challenges in my life right now and doing my best to reframe and move forward each day vs. seeing what didn't get done or what I can't do.
We're so hard on ourselves even in a crisis, and it's destructive. But we can turn it around and create a new way of life.
Sending thoughts, Love, and prayers to release you from the cage if you feel trapped or stuck. xoxo
Mentioned in this episode
Atomic Habits by James Cleary (the book on Amazon)
https://amzn.to/3UR5nAZ
Atomic Habits by James Cleary (the book on Audible)
https://amzn.to/3FkHfRA
Ed Mylett's interview with James Cleary (on YouTube)
https://youtu.be/Kz0pNyS0plk
Read Coercive control: Harms to children | Coercive control in children's and mother's lives | Oxford Academic
https://bit.ly/cc-harm
Domestic Violence Hotline in the US
800-799-7233
SMS: Text START to 88788
https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence
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